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Because Feminism That’s Why

For a change I’m way behind the times but oh well…

I watched Hermione Granger give her HeForShe speech at the UN a while back and found it very interesting. Beyond just being pleased to see Emma Watson grow to be such an eloquent young woman, it’s always good when people use their notoriety for a cause. Some people have found fault with the HeForShe initiative and criticized it for not having a clear plan but you have to appreciate that it’s a start and hopefully, as it gains momentum, the steps involved will become more clear.

I didn’t always consider myself a feminist but I didn’t always know what the word really meant. I thought being a feminist meant you had to carry signs and protest gender iniquity. I thought you had to be a ballbusting, tough woman and I just never considered myself one of those. It wasn’t until I was older that I learned that feminism has less to do with being angry, and more to do with understanding. It’s all about choice. It’s about believing that women have as much of a right to choose who they want to be as men do. You don’t have to be a high powered, no-nonsense, executive woman to be a feminist. You just have to believe that you have as much right as anyone else to do the things you want to do.

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I’m never going to be a CEO, but I’m also probably never going to be a stay at home mom. I haven’t protested against rape or women earning less than me, but I also don’t agree that women should be barefoot and pregnant, chained to the stove. I choose to be me. Me is more reserved in my beliefs and feelings. I have my opinions but I keep them to myself. For the most part.

How do I show I’m a feminist, you ask? I wear my Wonder Woman underoos when I have my period. Because feminism.

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http://www.heforshe.org/

Donate, don’t donate. I don’t really care. But however you choose to express yourself, you be you, fiercely.

 

Also, FUCK totally sexist superhero shirts! Read this too: “Superheroes Make Shitty Husbands!”

 

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Because No One Asked Me Anyway

Lately I’ve seen people post all over the internet their top 10 books. Normally I don’t care what’s trending or whether anyone asks me to participate, which they don’t typically (one positive of being a hermit I guess), but this is one I’d be interested in.

I was relieved that none of my close friends did the ice bucket challenge or thought to challenge me to it. If they had, I would have dumped mud on my head for Crohn’s and Colitis and no one wants to think too hard about “why mud?” (You’re thinking about it now, aren’t you?!)

So since no one’s asked me, but I feel like doing it anyway, here are my 10 most influential books in my life.

In mostly no particular order (kinda):

10. Catherine Called BirdyKaren Cushman. I read this in probably the 4th or 5th grade. It was the first “real” book I remember reading. By real I mean, more than 20 pages and a book I picked out all on my own like a big girl.

9. Alice In Wonderland And Through The Looking Glass, Lewis Carol. I was a manic-pixie-dream-girl in the making way before it was cool.

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8. The Once And Future King, T. H. White. I saw Patrick Stewart and Ian McKellan reading it in X-Men 2 and was curious. It took me an entire summer and then some to read but so worth it.

7. The Rescue ArtistEdward Dolnick. I didn’t have a lot in common with my grandma other than looks and not being a morning person. One thing we shared though was a love of art and reading. She sent me this book in the mail because she thought I’d like it. Now that she’s gone, I try to read art/capers to hold on to that memory.

6. Cloudy With A Chance Of Meatballs, Judy Barrett. My absolute favorite book as a kid! It’s still on my bookshelf and in absolute pieces from being read so many times. I refuse to see the movie because I don’t appreciate Hollywood shitting all over my childhood.

5. Of Human Bondage, Somerset Maugham. I read this book freshman year of college. I hated almost every minute of it.  It is the only book I have ever yelled at.

4. Dune, Frank Herbert. This is the first true scifi book I ever read. While I still lean more towards fantasy and trashy vampires, I like to think this book started me on my nerdy path.

3. Bossypants, Tina Fey. Do I really need to explain this one? Liz Lemon is my spirit animal.

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2. Neverwhere, Neil Gaiman. Really everything by him. I absolutely adore Neil Gaiman. He is my favorite author. Last summer I got to meet him briefly at a book signing and I completely fanigirled out when he signed my copy of Ocean At The End Of The Lane with a little love heart!

1. The She-Hulk Diaries, Marta Acosta. Come on this couldn’t not be #1! This book has influenced my life in the best way possible. Last night I received an incredible email from Marta Acosta herself saying how much she liked this blog and what I am doing! I was so touched. I got a little misty and had to reread it 7 or 8 more times to make sure it was real. Words cannot express how much I appreciate what all her book has done for me and how touched I was by her email.

I CAN DO ANYTHING!

I CAN DO ANYTHING!

So what have been the 10 most influential books in your life? And don’t say Harry Potter!

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I’m Just Gonna Leave This Here

In case anyone is stumped on what to get me for Hanukkah…

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Or just because you want to get me something. I’m a big fan of “just because” presents. I think they’re even better than birthday/holiday gifts. It’s something unexpected and thoughtful that someone gives you just because they saw it and thought of you, knew it would make you happy, and know you’d do the same for them.

Give someone a “just because” gift sometime. You never know when someone needs a little something to cheer them up. I love giving gifts any time of year. It makes me happy to see other people happy. Do something good and give a little gift to someone you love just because. That love will come back to you.

Do it!

Do it now!

Seriously, why haven’t you done it yet?!

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D-Day

Or how I learned to love the bomb…wait…

I’ve been dreading this day, the nervous anticipation of finally sharing what I’ve been striving for the last two months with family and friends.

It started out as a hair brained idea I got from reading a dumb little book but it’s grown into so much more. She-Hulk has become my new hero, along side Tina Fey and, well really only Tina Fey, but still! In the last two months I’ve tried more new things than I did probably all last year. I’ve been busting my ass to make some positive changes and while they are small and often hard to find, I have made them. I’m becoming my own hero! The person I want to be when I grow up! A third inspirational thing!

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I have plans every Tuesday now. Doctor Who’s Day has become something I look forward to all week long. I get  to watch one of my favorite shows in the company of other nerds who are becoming friends!

I’m reconnecting with old friends as well as making new ones. I had an awesome four hour lunch with Ellis Tesla and I hope to see him again, maybe even for Doctor Who’s Day one of these weeks. I talk more to friends like Gretchen and Isabel, two great ladies who I hope to continue to see more of.

Turns out I’m awesome at making up pseudonyms for people I want to keep anonymous.

I had an amazing birthday! Regardless of how I felt at times during the day, it was wonderful.

I did a cleanse of crap in my life and online. I cleaned out things from my ex, even making a little cash by selling things he gave me. I’ve resisted to urge to talk to him even though I still miss the douche bag. I cleared out my closet and book shelf, making room for bigger and better things. I purged my Facebook of people I no longer speak to, people I’ve reached out to in a time of need and was ignored, people I just kind of hate…And I was rewarded by hearing from people I never knew cared. I reached out my support and they gave it right back, just the way you’re supposed to!

Turns out I make AMAZING jam! Stay tuned for recipes in the future.

I’m taking important steps to figure out what I’m doing with my life. I’m figuring my shit out at my own pace and that’s okay.

I’m going to start trying to sell prints of my work. This goal makes me especially nervous but very excited at the same time. If I can find an outlet for my creativity that actually made me money I will be over the moon happy!

I successfully navigated the quagmire that is the health insurance marketplace. I have coverage and I am paying for it all on my own! This is a level of independence I have never had before and while I am nervous about paying things on time and figuring out what’s covered and what’s not, I’m still making payments and filling prescriptions like a BOSS.

Probably the most important achievement to me personally is that I’ve been a supportive sister and daughter to my family in what has been, for lack of a better term, a fuck ass couple months. As long as I can remember, I’ve been the one in the family with the issues. Always the sick one, out of work, quitting grad school, and having an emotional breakdown. The last few months have been really hard on my family and while I’ve struggled along side them, I haven’t completely isolated myself or took my own pain and frustration out on them. I’m not very good about sharing what’s going on with my siblings, but I’ve been making a conscious effort to be more present lately, especially to my sister RejRej. We’re two extremely different people but no matter what we’re sisters and when she had a health scare this month I am proud to say I have been there to listen to her problems and cheer her up. Now, mind you, I am extremely jealous that she got to see Garfunkel and Oates and Hannah Hart of My Drunk Kitchen all in the same month, I’m still happy she’s getting to do things to raise her spirits. I hope she feels better soon and I hope this is a new chapter in our relationship.

Alright, enough of this heartfelt, inspirational nonsense. Let’s all just sit in peace and eat a sandwich, or in this case…tacos!

 

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Bruce Banner Ain’t Got Nothin’ On Me

Okay, we’ve established that I have a LOT of free time. Last night I decided to spend some of that time playing on the fashionably enviable site Polyvore creating a wardrobe for She-Hulk. Because I can.

One of the many aspects I like about She-Hulk, specifically in The She-Hulk Diaries, is how she finds a way to balance her multiple lives and alter egos. Jennifer Walters is a shy lawyer while She-Hulk is the hero of Manhattan when the Avengers are busy doing other things. She’s tough and strong of course but she’s also brave in the face of danger, saving the world from Dr. Doom time and time again. Last but not least is everyone’s favorite party girl, Shulky. She loves to have a good time and isn’t shy about what she wants unlike Jennifer. A little loose, a little trashy, Shulky knows how to have a good time.

Clearly I have nothing better to do with my time. Clearly…

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Anxiety and Adipose

There are things I am incredibly nerdy about and I like to consider myself an “equal opportunity nerd,” with the exception of video games, tabletop games, LARPing, most horror, manga, and all things anime, and the gender inequity of cosplay…But I’m totally equal opportunity…

Doctor Who is my main nerdy vice, well, that and She-Hulk of course.

Anyway…

Continuing with my resolutions, I am trying to get out more and meet new people. I only have about 4 friends (that’s being generours) and they’re all married or in long term relationships that don’t require a 3rd wheel. I thought one simple way to get out more was going to my local comic store for what they call Doctor Who-sday.

I had only tried going once before with my ex who made my social anxiety look like child’s play compared to his. I remember convincing him to go only to have him breeze through the store and immediately back out. I was disappointed. I thought it looked like fun but left because I have low self-esteem I let him and his lack of social graces dictate most of our activities. Whateves, not like I sat through the ENTIRE Walking Dead series and creepy Korean mind fuck movies for him (I’m talking to you Oldboy!!!)…

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So months after my first attempt I decided to return. I would be my imaginary charming self and make a ton of new friends and flirt and get hit on all while watching my favorite show…Well I did get to watch my favorite show…and I think I got hit on by the guy across from me who decided to bring up Mengele and took my paper away to see what I was drawing…

Still…50 points to me for being social, I guess…

Captain Politically Correct was the only person I talked to there. The majority of other people were young attractive nerd couples and families. Most the people there seemed to know each other and socialized but as a new comer I didn’t feel all that welcomed, I mean aside from little Eichmann. Not one to invade an attractive pair of nerds nor really one for kids I kept to myself and got out of there as soon as I could.

I was a little disappointed after my 2nd Doctor Who-sday experience but at least I went. At least I took the chance to see what it was all about. I love Gotham Comics for reasons I’ll go into another time so I will definitely try again. I just may sit somewhere else.

 

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The Book That Started It All: The She-Hulk Diaries And My Path To Self Improvement

Warning: This post may contain spoilers!

Christ that’s a long title!

Recently I decided to take a break from my usual trashy vampire/scifi/fantasy reading. Don’t get me wrong, I love bodice ripping, rogue, fairy-vampires as much as the next girl but after a while they start to bleed together. To explain the circumstances which led to me reading The She-Hulk Diaries I think it’s best to describe my selection process:

Several years ago I had to make the heart breaking decision of whether to spend my money on clothes or books. This was not an easy decision, but as I have a public library incredibly close, clothes won out. I long for the day when there will be a place I can check out outfits, wear them and return for new ones every week or two…A girl can dream…

Anyway, back on subject. I don’t usually go into the library with a plan or a specific book in mind. Yes, there are author’s I prefer and of course series I’ve become attached to, but I rarely go in with one specific book in mind. I like to roam the racks, running my hands along the spines until something catches my eye. I choose books like I did way back in the day with cds and videos: if I spot a catchy title or the cover art is intriguing I’ll give it a shot. 70% of the time it works every time. Occasionally there’s a dud, but the majority of things I pick up are well deserving books in need of a chance.

Okay, so now you know how this book came to be in my possession. While wandering through the racks of my local library I couldn’t resist grabbing a book about a lesser known female superhero: The She-Hulk Diaries. To be honest, I knew nothing about She-Hulk before reading this book. I’m a fan now. Big time.

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The book tells the story of Jennifer Walters, mild mannered lawyer by day, jade colored amazon superhero by night! I found Jennifer relatable and Shulky (as she’s referred to in the book) enviable. Jennifer starts out the New Year unemployed, single, and down on herself. She both loves and hates her alter ego’s wild spirit. In an effort to take life into her own hands she formulates a plan to set New Year’s resolutions to take effect (or is it affect?) on Valentine’s Day. She awards herself points for each accomplishment and reevaluates her goals as she goes based off her successes and failures. Through various adventures including speed dating, LARPing, and saving New York City from an obnoxious supervillain, Jennifer manages to find love, have a successful career and reconcile her dual persona.

As someone fairly down on herself right now, I was drawn in by Jennifer/Shulky’s plan of self improvement. Hell, if a fictional superhero can have their happily ever after why can’t I?! So here I am. It’s July 1, 2014. I’ve given myself until Labor Day, September 1, to figure some things in my life out and I’m using this blog as a means to hold myself accountable to these goals. I’m not expecting to meet the love of my life in the next two months or stop Victor von Doom, but I’ve set myself some obtainable goals:

She-Hulk Resolutions:

– Embrace my Golden Year and enjoy my birthday (I’ll be turning 26 on July 26th)

– Make an effort to be more social: go to meetup.com groups, go to the comic book store, see my friends more often and make new ones

– Pursue a happy, long term relationship or PFLOML

– Be more healthy: start running, swim, do yoga again, eat better, go to health related meetups

– Find a job I don’t hate

– Apply for more classes in graphic design

– Find a profitable outlet for my creativity

I’ve created a point system for myself much like in the book in the hopes that it will bring out my inner competitiveness and motivate me to stick with these goals. By taking steps towards these goals over the next two months the hope is that I will have at least a few of them accomplished by Labor Day and set new ones for the future.

The real goal here is not to fix my life in a set number of days. I’ve been through enough therapy to know that’s not happening. I just want to actually stick to a goal I set. My typical behavior is to cut and run when things get tough. I don’t want to be that girl anymore so I’m starting small with some obtainable goals that’ll set me up for bigger and better things down the line.

Wish me luck!

 

As a side note, while looking for images for this post I came across the Author, Marta Acosta’s Pinterest page Celebrating She-Hulk!

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